teamnotverified wrote:My bad if the thread has moved on from this discussion, i'm back here at page 31 when you're all talking about the money exchange.
I'm just confused - does no one on this thread share money and items with their significant others? Like, i'll pay for my partner's food one time, and then the next time we eat they pay for it, or sometimes we'll go out and i don't bring my purse but then come across something i want to buy so i borrow the money from them and then pay them back when i next get a hold of my purse, and the same works the other way round, if i have money on me and they don't- i'll lend them it... Isn't that how couples act??
With this particular instance i just feel like what Jess did was completely normal and I feel like a lot of you are seeing the exchange in a bad light because you WANT to. I'd hate to think that the next time i'm out with my partner and they buy my lunch, or i dont have enough money for a Thing and they cover me til we get home, that anyone observing us would think i'm some kind of gold digger who is using my partner for their money?? There just seems to be a leap of logic from what we actually see in the video to the comments that she's just taking his money. All we actually see in the video is a girl walking up to her guy and taking money from him, and that's ALL we know. we can't hear the conversation, for all we know, Mark actually owed her money but forgot to give it to her at the ATM, or for all we know it's a measley $5 and she just wants to buy some food, not an unreasonable thing to get your gf.
And even if it wasn't anything like that, sometimes I ask for gifts from my partner, and sometimes they ask for gifts from me. And we spend the money because we're happy to. That's not an unreasonable thing to do in a relationship.
I guess the TL;DR for this is that maybe some people's dislike of Jess means that you're seeing a totally boring exchange between a couple and assuming or even hoping that it's something shady or immoral on Jess' part. I get it, boring exchanges aren't interesting on a gossip site. It's more interesting to think that a girl is a gold digger than to see her as doing something that men and women do in any romantic relationship
Alright kids, strap in because I've got a story to tell and a confession to make. Forgive me if my wording or spelling is off, im currently typing this while stuck in traffic. Most of the people on here are new faces but I've been a member since fairly early on. Around this time last year Mark posted the famous cat video and then refused to acknowledge the existence of said cat. This came only a few weeks after be stated that he did not, in fact, have any cats. This was the last straw for me in a string of discrepancies. I'm ashamed to say I was completly obsessed with Mark back then to the pain that it was unhealthy. So I did a little snooping. I was sure he was dating someone and I knew it had to be from early on in the channel. So I went through his mods one by one until I found the cats on Jess's twitter. Along with other evidence. I was hurt by the information, even though I suspected I was right, I still felt betrayed. And worse, I felt guilty because I had no real reason to be upset. I was salty and sitting on information. But its important to note that I soon accepted it. I am many things but one of the strongest quirks of my personality is I am a complete troll. So I conspired with friends to send out an anonymous message I wrote purposely trying to sound like a salty fan girl. That message was pasted on this site at some point. The goal was never to torment Jess, I was more upset with Mark tbh .I wanted chaos. But we couldn't make it happen. The fandom wasn't big or crazy enough at the time to start a fan war. So I posted to Reddit and let it die. It's so ironic that chaos I wanted to cause is happening almost a year later. The truth of the matter is I wish I had never done any of that. Jess didn't deserve to be called out and put in the spotlight. She doesn't deserve to have her every action picked apart. When the break up happened I literally couldn't sleep because I felt so guilty. I was SO happy to see that picture of them together on twitter. But then I came over to GG to see how it was received. Over the past few days I've seen people who were seemingly sympathetic to Jess turn on her. I've seen assumptions made from her posts on social media that are so outrageous I literally laughed out loud. It's like you want to see the worst in her. I admit I may be bias because I feel guilty but none of the things she's done (besides the hospital post) paint her in the light these forums do. People who are saying she's doing this for attention; Jess and Mark were together for almost two years without her saying a word about it. That doesn't seem like attention seeking behavior to me. Her posts on tumblr seem to be coming from a person who legitimately wants to be more self aware. As for people saying things about her cosplay. My personal opinion is that she has talent and very well could make it as a pro. She's close to Mark, who is always advises people to follow their dreams. This is what she wants to put her work and life into. This is her dream. I see many folks saying she dragged Marks name through the mud, but the posts I believe we are referring to never named names. Some people obviously knew what they were about, but not too many. She certainly had many opportunities to trash Mark, but never did. I know I'm not likely to change many minds. It is human nature to stick to your guns, after all. But I wanted to take off my troll hat for a bit and put in my own text spam. From following Jess for a while I've gained some information as to what she is like. She's not perfect, and is sometimes dramatic. But I can say without a shadow of a doubt that in the end she always tries to be a good person. And I wouldn't doubt her claims that they are just friends for the moment. *just intuition here, no evidence* at the end of the day people are infinitely more complex than what we see from scarce posts on social media. I hope if Jess and Mark come on this site, they laugh together at the allegations instead of taking them to heart. Words, even speculation, can cause damage. And Jess if you're reading this. I'm so sorry. I tried telling myself it would get out anyway because of what was posted on MU and Dodgers video, but in the end I know what I did was fucked up. I wish I had the balls to tell you to your face.